15 Incredible Ways to Unwind After A Long Day

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Would you consider yourself a relaxed person? Do you suffer from overwhelming frustration and/or fatigue? Are you worried about your physical and mental wellbeing due to stress?

As we’ve experienced stress, anxiety and depression ourselves, we are in a position to understand a little about what you are going through if your answer is ‘yes’ to any of the above. Though everyone's is different, there are common factors and suggestions we’ve discovered from our shared experience that can help and that’s exactly what we are going to pass on to you today.

Why is relaxation important?

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When we feel stressed, it isn’t just brain fuzz we experience, our bodies react physically. The ‘fight-or-flight’ response is triggered in overwhelming situations and this causes our muscles to become tense, our blood to rush to our vital organs and our heart and respiration rates to increase.

You may read that and think, surely this is a faulty aspect of our ‘design’? Why did evolution make us this way if the reactions don’t serve us? The fact of the matter is, it does serve us… in certain situations. If you think back to when we were tribal, living in communities amongst nature, when we saw a predator we would’ve had two options: to defend ourselves (fight) or to run away (flight). This ‘stress’ mechanism is what keeps us safe, and is what we have to thank for allowing the human race to survive this long on Earth.

Nevertheless, the 21st century is a very different place to that in which our ancestors lived. We no longer need to worry about something that could eat us alive being around every corner, and we certainly shouldn’t be replacing predators with our bosses (even though it may not feel this way sometimes). What we should to do is work on our own evolution… we must evolve to recognise the situations that unnecessarily trigger this response in us and work on counteracting it, through the use of relaxation, which instead triggers the ‘breed-and-feed’ response.

When you are in a relaxed breed-and-feed state, your heart and respiration rate slows down, your muscles gently let go of tension, blood returns to your hands and feet and you experience a feeling that can be described as wellness. We can’t be relaxed all of the time, but we can rebalance our being by attuning ourselves to all aspects of mental and physical health.

Is being busy or stressed a sign of success?

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In short, it’s a big fat N-O from us. But if you stepped back and looked at society as a whole to answer that for you today, you’d probably conclude to the opposite answer. It’s not that we (we being the collective ordinary person) have consciously created a world in which we deem never having any time for yourself as a ‘successful lifestyle’, it’s that we’ve started looking at success from a warped perspective… a perspective that allows external, manipulative sources (such as advertising, politics etc) to dictate what it is important, without tuning into what actually provides us as individuals with fulfilment.

In a culture that is obsessed with people that have ‘made it to the top’, it makes sense that most of us go on to follow this path – seeking positions, possessions, never being content with what we have, always extending the benchmark and constantly comparing ourselves to others, without ever taking a minute to celebrate how far we’ve already come. Even those that come to realise that this popular modern Western way of life is not right for them feel as though they cannot escape it, bombarded with messages of ‘society standards’ regardless, which of course is yet another common cause of stress. After all, the need to fit in and be accepted and respected within the community (or tribe) is a primal trait. Going against the grain will always feel slightly unnatural unless you are part of a solid group or majority, so this again explains how and why the general public allow manipulative forces to dictate their lives rather than following their own path to fulfilment.

We are meant to see something that will help tomorrow and take actions towards it today. We are meant to prepare ourselves for future eventualities. This is hardwired in the brain for survival, and totally normal. Where this goal-oriented attitude has become abnormal and entirely detrimental is in the cases where our primary needs like food, water, shelter and human connection are met and we still feel a great sense of longing or lack.

With this feeling, it doesn’t actually matter what we have or need, we will always want more. Ultimately, the more we have, the more have to lose. So if the constant battle to sustain all that you have acquired doesn’t cause high levels of stress, the battle to acquire more will. The type of stress these two things induce is comparable to being at war or standing up against a predator in the forest.

Money is equated with happiness more than it ever has been before, but many studies of global economics show some of the poorest places in the world to have the happiest citizens. Oliver James discusses subjects like this in his book ‘Affluenza’. He believes we are suffering from an addiction to affluence – the need to have more and more stuff/data/experiences/social status. He says this obsessive, envious keeping-up-with-the-Joneses has resulted in huge increases in depression and anxiety among millions.

If some of this is ringing true to you, ask yourself: do you think being stressed, frazzled and depleted are signs of success? Then follow up with why?

It is time to stop turning to others to set the standards. You define what success means to you! Use your own internal guidance system to find out what you really want and need, and be stubborn in implementing your findings into everyday life.

There are a million different ways to live, our advice is to slowly start adapting yours so that it better fits your true nature. Here are some examples to inspire you:

Do you get a lump in the throat when you see images of the Ocean full of plastic? Use this stressor as a means to take action – be responsible for your own rubbish, start being a strict recycler! Take it one step further – if you see a bar, restaurant or shop handing out plastic straws, ask to talk to the manager and suggest they look into replacing them with paper ones.

Does getting on a crammed train full of silent passengers all avoiding eye contact frustrate you first thing in the morning? Reassess your commute – rise a little earlier to walk or ride your bike to work, maybe even try carpooling. Even if you still have to use some public transport for practical reasons, you could mix up the journey by walking rather than taking a bus or tube. Or, controversially, be the change you want to see in the world by starting up a conversation when a safe opportunity presents itself.

Do you look at Instagram and feel worse afterwards? Connect with people in a different way – join a real life group that’s making a positive change in something you care about, volunteer somewhere, visit that new mum you know struggles to socialise or ask that foreign follower if they’d like to become a penpal (if you’re worried about paper and the environment use email or Skype instead – just don’t get sucked into doing other, less productive things online!)

Are you fed up of apologising for wearing no makeup or rocking your untamed natural hair, as if you should be embarrassed for being your authentic self in a social setting? First of all understand that you do not need the approval of anyone. Love yourself and start to undo the damage social influences have had on you in relation to this topic simply by being and validating yourself. Even start calling people out on their shallowness and material outlook when necessary. You can’t correct the world but you can choose how you respond as an individual.

Is the way you’re expected to work overwhelming you on a regular basis? Be realistic and honest with yourself and your boss (remember they have a duty of care as your employer) about what you can achieve without burning yourself out. Working in a manic way is only productive for so long – at some point your mind or body (or both) will find a way to shut down so you get some much needed rest. Keep in mind that no job is worth giving up your health for.

Have you got a long list of events to attend that you actually care very little about? Expectations = pressure. If you are constantly expected to show up to things as your most bubbly self in order to network with people on a surface level, you’re likely to feel as if you’re ‘selling your soul’. You may need to go to some business related socials from time to time, but remember you have the power to say no when it is in your best interest to, and there’s a BIG difference between want to and ought to. Replace the ought to’s with more want to’s!

So, why do we crave distraction over downtime?

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If all of these things are making us stressed, why do we choose them over leisurely activities that fulfil us? Good question! As we’ve touched on above, it is natural to be active in securing your future – we had to think this way when we lived in the wild, as food and water wasn’t available in an instant like it is in most places today. But once our primary needs are met, (over) working and (over) ‘doing’ is only serving as a distraction, and a mostly negative one at that. So why do we continue to do it? It could be down to several things, like:

Belief systems. A lot of us are running programmes that tell us you must be ‘super busy and constantly doing something to be considered productive’. This was learned from somewhere – what was the source? Who was the teacher? Mum, Dad, society, school… who modelled this to you? Ask yourself.

FOMO - the fear of missing out is another big one. Many of us find it hard to prioritise social invitations, daily duties and work tasks without getting the sense that you might be missing out or failing at something, so we attempt to fit it all in without thinking of the consequences, which is often - you guessed it - stress and overwhelm!

Avoidance is common, so if there’s anything you haven’t and/or don’t want to deal with, you could be subconsciously burying yourself in ‘stuff’ to do so that your mind is distracted and doesn’t lock on to that subject as much.

Loneliness will force us to do things we don’t want to do just to be around people. Humans require connection, it is one of our primary needs. Without it, we will do pretty much anything to get it – including working out of hours, through lunch breaks and over the weekend.

Change can be scary, so often we carry on doing what we’ve always done because we kind of know the outcome. Even if an outcome is negative, it can still be familiar. The predictability means we view it as ‘safe’. Stepping outside of your usual box means uncertainty and surprise.

Ask yourself: What it is about downtime that makes me reluctant to embrace it? The resistance you experience is worth exploring, as it will always act as a barrier to your happiness if it goes unaddressed.


How to ensure you make downtime

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That’s all very well, but what about when it comes to making space for downtime on a practical level? Here are our answers to any of the excuses you might have:

Don’t have time? Consider getting up or going to bed a little earlier. You don’t have to rush around as soon as you wake, or sleep as soon as you get into your room – just take a few moments to gather yourself and enjoy some stillness the best you know how.

Have too much work to do? Call upon someone you trust to help you. If you have a boss, talk honestly with them about what you feel you need. Whether it is professional or personal responsibility, or both, remember you cannot be switched on 24/7. Anyone that expects this much of you has a warped view on reality – don’t take that on as your own issue (because it is an issue).

What about the children? Communicate what you need with your partner, parents or close friends – they are likely to want to help you out. If you can afford a trustworthy babysitter, even if it is just for half an hour, hire one and don’t feel guilty. You can’t pour from an empty cup dear one!

Won’t be left alone? Find a quiet space and turn your phone/notifications off. If you need to text or tell people to make them aware of this beforehand, do so and be clear about it. After that, you pretty much control what you let into your experience.

Stuck in a rut? Switch up your environment, move your room around or find a little nature spot that inspires you. Distractions like TV’s, laptops and tablets will encourage you to ‘do’ rather than just ‘be’ for a while. Shut them down to shut yourself down for a bit.

Intrusive housemates/family members? Get a lock and/or sign for your bedroom door, to symbolise that this is your sacred space. Every adult deserves some privacy from time to time. Children and teens require this too, but safety has to come first, obviously. Maybe watching them play outside from a window could give them the independent space they desire.

Once you create the space for me-time, you can fill it with things that’ll promote relaxation. To give you some direction, we’ve put together 15 suggestions for winding down after a demanding day:


1. Settle down for a nice cup of herbal tea

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Hydration is a really important factor when it comes to your mood. A lack of liquid in your system can make you feel grouchy and weaker than usual, so you should always take some time to top up when you feel stress coming on. Tea breaks can act as a wonderful intervention for times like these. We recommend a herbal packed full of flavour and rich in vitamins. Pukka’s Relax or Three Tulsi Tea are ideal as they contain ingredients that are said to have powerful relaxation properties, including chamomile flower, fennel seed, marshmallow root and green, purple and lemon tulsi. Making and then drinking your tea can be very ritualistic, so really take your time to enjoy each stage. Concentrate on the aroma, the taste, the temperature… breathe slowly and bathe in a moment of tranquility. Freedom is in the present moment, not the past nor the future!


2. Light a candle for yourself

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Another nice way to honour your need for down-time is to light a candle, daily or even weekly. Make it a regular practice that reminds you to slow down once during your otherwise hectic schedule and soon you’ll find it rejuvenates you. Watching fire is a primal thing, it’s something our ancestors would’ve done. When you connect to fire, you feel connected to something higher – you feel how powerful and important it is to our existence. Use this power, let it energise you! Gaze at it, wish upon it, smell it. Notice how being in a relaxing environment affects your mood. If you feel calmer, you’ve found a stress management technique that works for you. Turn to this when you need some relief.


3. Get a relaxing massage

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Massage therapy is probably of one the first things you think of when you consider relaxation. Even if you’ve never had the pleasure of receiving one before, you can intuitively imagine just how good it would be for melting away stress and easing up any tension. It feels so incredible because the stimulation of the body’s muscles and soft tissues releases dopamine, a happy chemical that is produced to keep the nervous system functioning smoothly. The same feeling arises when you use a personal head massager or back scratcher, just on a lower scale. What feels good in the body is usually mirrored in your mood. We’d suggest seeing someone that comes recommended by a friend or family member, but a simple search in Google will suffice, just be sure to read some reviews!


4. Have your own salon-standard pamper session

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One of the best ways to unwind is to dedicate a whole evening to yourself, holding your own salon-standard pamper session. Pour yourself a refreshing iced drink, run yourself a luxurious bath with essential oils and lay back with some of your favourite tunes on as background noise. This is the time to do all of the things you want to but usually have no room in your day for, like putting on a face mask, filing your nails or exfoliating with some invigorating coffee scrub. It’s not selfish to spend a few hours alone, it’s smart. Give yourself the gift of time, and you’ll find you have more energy and resources to pass on later.


5. Charge yourself with positive affirmations

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Affirmations are statements that are said (out loud or in your head) with confidence regarding a perceived truth. Positive affirmations have worked for an endless list of individuals over the years, but they don’t always work instantly. Some people simply try repeating them for a day or two, give up and conclude that they don’t work. For positive affirmations to be effective, it helps to understand how they work.

Positive affirmations are designed to reprogramme the mind so that you start to believe the stated concept. We say reprogramme because it is our current programming that can contain negative affirmations. Negative affirmations are usually much stronger than positive ones, often because they’ve been learned or reflected in experience. The stronger your negative belief is, the harder it will be to reframe this… but it is possible! They key to success is patience and repetition, backed by pure intent.

Here are some examples of positive affirmations that you can use for negative beliefs:

Positive Affirmations for Negative Beliefs

Negative Belief Positive Affirmation

I can’t do this! I am courageous and capable!

I am so ugly! I accept and love myself fully!

I do not trust anyone! I accept help when it is offered graciously and unconditionally!

I never have enough! I am aligned with the energy of wealth and abundance!

I always fail! I expand my awareness through the hidden potential in each new

experience!

If none of the above suit you, don’t fear. There are millions of blogs and various self-help resources out there tailored to every belief system under the sun. Do a little self-examination and uncover what it is that is holding you back from living the most fulfilling life possible.  


6. Try progressive muscle relaxation

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When you’re stressed or anxious, it’s really hard to enjoy your downtime as the body is still tense and the mind super busy. To get yourself to relax, it is helpful to have a technique to turn to. One of the simplest and most effective tools is progressive muscle relaxation, often taught in yoga and meditation classes but also recommended by therapists and doctors. You don’t have to go to a class that teaches progressive muscle relaxation to use this tool, but you certainly can find one if you want to (here's a link to our teacher, if you’re interested) and it can be helpful to have a guide so less thinking is required.  

This relaxation technique is really accessible and can be done in the comfort of your own home and even condensed down to be used on-the-go. You can find plenty of progressive muscle relaxation/body scan audio guides online, via YouTube, Soundcloud, Headspace, Calm and Insight Timer etc. Or you could choose to become your own guide, by reading and then following the steps below. The more familiar you become with this practice, the more useful it will be. Then you may decide to customise it in a way that you discover best works for you.

Here’s how it works:

Introduction to Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Step 1) Sit or lay in a comfortable, open position. Try to make sure your neck is straight, your shoulders are back and your head is balanced on the tip of your spine. Close your eyes and turn your attention to your breath. Note if your breath is shallow or deep.

Step 2) Slowly breath in the through the nose and out through the mouth. Don’t force the breath, just follow it like watching waves coming in and out on the shore. How is your breath now you are being more conscious of it. Is it deeper, in the chest or the belly?

Step 3) Make a tight, clenched fist with your right hand and squeeze. Hold this for a few seconds, stopping to notice how the tension in your hand and fingers feels – you may recognise this sensation from stressful moments you’ve experienced before.

Step 4) Now gently release your clenched fist, letting your fingers slowly open and all of the muscles in your hand relax. Pay close attention to the tension dissipating. Your right hand should now feel lighter, free from the strains of stress.

Step 5) Turn your attention to your left hand and repeat the process. Once you’re done, repeat the process on another part of the body that is bothersome. You can give yourself a full body relaxation using this technique or just pinpoint the areas that stress affects you the most, like the neck or shoulders.

Continue using this technique even if you don’t have instant results, but stop if you are uncomfortable with it and do not tense muscles that are injured or problematic before consulting your GP or usual healthcare provider for advice.

As you will have discovered by following the steps above, this relaxation technique is designed to help you recognise what muscle tension in the body feels like so that you can work on reducing it whenever you notice it. Constantly returning your attention to the breath and checking in with the body like this gives your mind a rest from its usual ruminations. The mind/body combination makes this technique one of the most powerful practices you will ever find for high levels of stress and anxiety. To get the most out of this exercise, try doing 30 minutes, two to three times a day.

7. Exercise to some uplifting music

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It doesn’t take a genius to work out that music has a massive effect on the human stress response. All it takes is some tense music in a foreshadowing movie scene for you to be sitting up right in your chair, alert, with adrenaline pumping! If you can relate, it should come as no surprise that upbeat or mellow music holds the same magic power to shift your mood and make you feel a certain way, be it happy or calm, excited or inspired. Take your favourite song, for example. How does it makes you feel, and why? Once you discover what type of music relaxes you, you can use it as a tool to help manage stress. Combine positive music with some positive action, like exercise (or Fast Exercise as we prefer), and you’ll find your stress levels can be rapidly reduced.


8. Connect with a trusted friend or family member

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It may seem futile to suggest something that seems to be common knowledge or ‘intuitive wisdom’, as we like to call it, but sometimes you need a nudge in the right direction. “Getting it off your chest” truly will give you a sense of “a weight being lifted”. Unlike many other pointless sayings that exist in the 21st century, these are popular for good reason – they acknowledge connection as a primary human necessity and reinforce the importance of communities. What we are trying to saying is that, although you may have heard it a million times before, a problem shared really is a problem halved. Processing information alone can be overwhelming, but with someone we trust to talk to we feel supported and much more stable.

9. Try some mindful colouring in

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A few years ago, adult colouring books weren’t something you’d see or hear very much of. But recently that’s all changed, and we can see two reasons why: #1 being that there’s an epidemic of stress, depression and anxiety at the moment, which means there’s an equal emphasis on self-help activities being produced by industries and markets. #2 being that colouring in is actually proving to work really well for a lot of different people, so interest and demand is organically increasing. Despite there being a difference between art therapy and colouring books, the latter does provide many therapeutic benefits while costing a lot less in comparison (even if you don’t want to spend a penny you can find free printable pages online with a simple search). We love it because it offers an accessible meditative experience where you can be focused and free simultaneously. We find the imagery seeps into our consciousness, so always like to choose calming themes, significant symbols or inspiring landscapes. What you see and spend time with will transfer into your inner world, so find something that reflects how you’d like to feel.


10. Spend some time being amongst nature

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Accordingly to a 2010 study published by Environmental Health and Preventive Medicine, participants who walked in the forest had lower blood pressure and levels of cortisol (otherwise referred to as the stress hormone) afterwards compared to those who took the same length walk through a city. Try it for yourself just the once and see if it makes a difference. If it does, do it again. Find a little spot you like or explore a different place every time. There’s a high possibility that you’ll find this an easy, inexpensive way to inject some tranquility into your otherwise hectic life. Like anything we’ve suggested, the best results will come from consistency.

11. Join a likeminded group and/or find a hobby

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Sometimes the last thing you want to do is the first thing you need to do, and that often applies to the cases of stress, depression and anxiety. When you feel your worst, you really don’t want to meet new people or partake in a group activity – you may feel like isolating yourself or even fear the interaction. But connection, as we’ve mentioned above, is essential to our survival as social human beings. Without a ‘tribe’, loneliness manifests making us feel powerless and paranoid. If you can push yourself to entertain the idea of joining a likeminded group and then actually find the courage to follow through with it, you’re taking a really positive step to care for yourself and the evidence of that will soon start to shine through. If nervousness and uncertainty is getting the better of you, try building up your confidence by exploring the activity you’re interested in on your own first.

12. Start immersing yourself in a good book

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A good book can throw you into a different world – reading can be escapism at its finest! But it’s not just entertainment and intellectual stimulation we get, it’s a real reduction in mental and physical stress. The University of Sussex carried out research on this to find that reading is so effective in terms of stress reduction that just six minutes can reduce stress levels by two thirds, lowering your heart rate and easing up muscle tension almost instantly. It’s said to be a ‘quick-fix’, working faster than listening to music, going for a walk or settling down for a calming cuppa. We imagine this being true for most people, but not everyone. If reading is for you, this should definitely give you yet another good excuse to find more time in your day for it.


13. Keep a gratitude journal

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We all have some positive and negative beliefs about ourselves, the world and others. A lot of the time, our beliefs serve us well. But often, when you’re anxious, depressed or stressed, we hook onto our negative beliefs and they hinder us rather than help us.

Sometimes we need to recognise which beliefs no longer serve us and replace them with new ones that do. This isn’t an easy process and many of the that beliefs you have will have been picked up through childhood – they are programmed into you and often reinforced through experiences and people in your life for various reasons. To reprogramme yourself into being more of an optimist than a pessimist, you can keep a gratitude journal in which you list three or more things that you’re grateful for each day. This will help to train your ‘gratitude muscle’, meaning that after some practice your brain will automatically reach for the higher thought over the lower one. You may draw links between this process and positive affirmations, as it is effectively the same concept at work.

Here’s an example of the types of things you can write:

Note: Gratitude journals don’t have to be focused solely around the ‘big’ things. Think about all of the little things in life you are thankful for. Write about what brought you joy today.

Gratitude Journal Examples

I am grateful for the feeling of fresh, clean sheets on my bed!

I am thankful for the flowers I can see out of my window!

I am full of gratitude and joy today thanks to a lovely lunch I had with [name].


14. Listen to the birds singing

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Speaking of the little things, being grateful for being able to hear the birds chirping away in the background is one many can relate to. The sound of nature has a clever way of providing us moments of calmness and clarity even in a whirlwind of crazy. Maybe you’ve experienced this for yourself. Some people even find it helps them to sleep. Thanks to Brighton and Sussex Medical School (BSMS), we now know why. According to a 2017 study, BSMS found that natural sounds like bird song can physically alter the connection in our brains that control the autonomic nervous systems. By listening to the ocean, the birds or the sound of leaves rustling in the wind, you trick your body into switching on your breed-and-feed mode, which means this is a good way to help switch the fight-or-flight instinct off.


15. Take some time out to breathe, literally!

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Not many people realise that the breath has a lot to do with how we feel. If we can learn to control our breathing, we can learn to better manage our moods. Though the breath is something many of us take for granted, meditation teachers and scientists around the globe promote it as a portable, effective stress reduction tool that you can turn to at any time. To really realise its power, you have to understand how it works and then experience it for yourself. Again, this isn’t a quick-fix suggestion, this is a recommended practice that needs to be incorporated into your daily life and used on a regular basis for the best results. If you’re willing to dedicate yourself to just 5-15 minutes of breathwork spread over the course of a day, you’ll reap major rewards.

Here’s how it works:

When we breathe in, we automatically activate the sympathetic nervous system (fight-and-flight) and when we breathe out, we activate the parasympathetic nervous system (breed-and-feed). In breed-and-feed, you feel relaxed. Breathwork teaches you to increase the amount of time spent in breed-and-feed, meaning you’ll spend less time feeling stressed, depressed or anxious. Short shallow breaths signal stress, whereas deep natural inhales with long relaxing exhales tell the brain that everything is well. As a result of deep conscious breathing, your mind is calmer and your body is at ease, released from crippling tension.

Here’s how to do it, it step-by-step:

4-6 Breaths

Step 1) Get comfortable, either sitting on a chair, the floor or lying on a yoga mat or bed. Adopt an open, upright/straight posture, with your head balanced on the tip of your spine.

Step 2) Draw your attention to the breath as it is, don’t try to change anything. Note where you feel it, how your body feels with it, what your mind is doing.

Step 3) Next try breathing in while counting to four and out while counting to six. You may find this difficult at first. See if you can get a rhythm going. Don’t force it, monitor it and let it flow as smoothly as possible.

Step 4) After a few cycles of this, note how your body feels now. Is your belly moving up and down? How is what you’re experiencing different to how you felt during step 2?

Step 5) Now try again, but after a few more cycles try pinpointing the moment where the out-breath stops and the in-breath begins. Use a visual aid to help you, like iBreathe (available in the Apple app store).

If you want more information/guidance, Robert Mitchell from Bromley Mindfulness is the man to speak to! Almost everything we’ve ever learned about stress management and meditation is from him, so his blog is well worth a read and if you can, give his drop-in classes a visit or one of the courses a go. You can hear him explaining (and showing) how to use the Heartrate Coherence+ app to reduce stress and practice the 4-6 breaths here on YouTube.

Some things to keep in mind:

You should speak to your GP or usual healthcare provider for individualised advice regarding breathwork if you have a respiratory problem or any other concerns about this exercise. Listen to your body and stop if you feel physical discomfort.

Everyone experiences the uneasy feeling of a busy mind, every time you become aware of it just return your attention to the breath again and know that this is normal, just part of the process.

So there you have it, 15 ways to relax after a busy day, week or month! We really hope you’ve found something useful here to takeaway and implement. If you’ve resonated with anything in particular, we’d love to hear what and why – leave us a comment below, and don’t forget to pass this article on to any friends or family you think could benefit!

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.
— Chinese Proverb

Sending you all of the very best wishes in the world,

Samuel & Marie x


Research, Resources & Further Reading:  

Psssst! Don’t leave before checking out some of these awesome articles. Some super helpful stuff here.

Breathing Exercises by NHS

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/ways-relieve-stress/

Relaxation Techniques by NHS Inform

https://www.nhsinform.scot/healthy-living/preventing-falls/fear-and-anxiety-about-falling/relaxation-techniques

Stress Busting Tips by NHS

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/reduce-stress/

Transforming Negative Self Talk with Positive Affirmations

http://refugecenter.org/transforming-negative-self-talk-with-positive-affirmation/

What Happened to Downtime? The Extinction of Sacred Space

https://www.fastcompany.com/1700298/what-happened-downtime-extinction-deep-thinking-and-sacred-space

What’s So Important About Being Busy?

http://www.sustainableyou.co.uk/space-matters/  

How to Maximise Coherence Between Heart Rate and Breath

http://www.heartrateplus.com/

Mindfulness Courses and Classes in Bromley and Kent

http://bromleymindfulness.org.uk/mindfulness-courses/

A Hunter-Gatherer Workout By Doctor Michael Mosley

https://www.fast-exercises.com/how-to-do-fast-exercise/

Goodreads: Affluenza by Oliver James

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/48830.Affluenza  


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